Salutations to those moms and stepmoms who love and respect their children and their husband’s children. As a mother I am acquainted with the joys and disappointments, the tender moments and challenges of motherhood. As an adult stepchild, I am aware of some of the challenges of blended families. Mothers know that motherhood is not for the faint of heart, but that it requires total love, commitment, and dedication to raise and nurture children to be healthy, happy, responsible adults and to foster family unity. Becoming a stepmother requires these qualities plus more to ensure that both sets of children feel loved, respected, and included in the family.

            In my book a share an example of a stepmother of adult children who expected the children to struggle with their dad’s remarriage less than a year after their mother’s death. She was patient, loving, and kind as the children struggled through their emotions. Little by little the children began to recognize her kindnesses to them and the blessing she is to their dad. They are now grateful to have her as a member of their family.

            Several people I interviewed indicated that it took years to adjust to a parent’s remarriage. Often it was the (step)mother’s influence that positively or negatively affected the relationships. For you who may be wondering if there is a light at the end of the tunnel, take heart. Continue with good works and loving support. Remember Winston Churchill’s words, “Never, never, never, never, never give up!”

Terri P. Smith, author, When Your Parent Remarries Late in Life. (To order your copy from www.amazon.com, simply click the book image on the right of the screen.)